If you’re lucky enough/ trustworthy enough to have been given the hugely important job of best man, don’t panic… Follow out handy checklist to ensure that you’ve got all bases covered….
Before the wedding
Organise a stag do. Arrange yourself or with the groom. Avoid clichés and pick an ace place to visit. Don’t stitch the groom up and make sure he does what he wants – it’s his day after all!!
The speech – Type it, don’t hand write it!
If you’re doing a speech on the big day it’s important to make the whole thing as easy as pie for yourself. Even the most accomplished speakers can experience a brain fade in the moment so a dog-eared bit of paper that you can’t read isn’t going to help you. If you are more of an improvised kind of chap then prompt cards can help rather than just freestyling and hoping for the best.
Embarrassing evidence/ anecdotes of the stag do
No best man’s speech should be free of embarrassing tales about your best mate. Though it’s always a good idea to get somebody you trust to listen to the speech beforehand (just to make sure you aren’t doing a hatchet job).
Write a list
There are a lot of things to manage on the wedding day so writing a list of all the things you need to sort (or delegate) can only help. Don’t feel overwhelmed; jot it down.
On the big day
Rings – ‘I thought you had them?’ One of the classic horror stories of a best man’s duties is forgetting the wedding rings. Pack the night before to avoid last minute catastrophes
Pen and paper – Old school yes, but as a best man you may be required to actually write some important information down. Writing yourself a list the night before can be a good idea so you’re not too overwhelmed on the big day.
Mobile and charger – Access to emails is important, especially if you need to check important information or send the guests a last-minute email. People also might need to get in contact with you too, remember.
Suits – If you’re hiring suits make sure you’ve allowed enough time to pick them up and drop them off. Make sure everyone in your party has tried them on and hasn’t left it until the last day.
Be on hand – Be around the morning of the wedding and devote your time to the groom. Be helpful and on hand at all times. Remember, that he’s going to be feeling pretty stressed so help in any way that you can.
Cake – Make sure you know who’s picking up the cake or if it’s being delivered. Find out in advance what time it’s ready from.
Flowers – Again, offer to collect or organise the delivery. Plan in advance who’s doing what so there are no mix ups on the big day.
Rallying the troops – When it’s time to head to the church or registry office, rallying your guests is a crucial job. Give people adequate warning and enough time to finish their drinks if you’re meeting at a pub beforehand.
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